Adult hot The Lie of Love. - lookmybody - lookmybody

Valentine's Day is approaching, so my inner rage is coming out.

I despise Valentine's Day for so many reasons.  Besides the capitalist/consumerist connotations the day involves, I also just cannot stand this forced notion of love.

I am single - happily so.  And I truly mean it, I am not being bitter or cynical.  I am honestly and completely happy with myself.

And I personally believe that everyone, regardless of race, gender, class, etc., should feel this way before feeling forced to commit to someone else for the rest of their life.  I believe that so many relationship issues are created when someone is not happy with themselves, or does not know to stand on their own two feet.  As I write this I am texting two female friends who became engaged to their respective partners in the last year or so, who gave up so much of themselves when they committed their lives to these men.  And if they had taken the time (or had been given the chance) to truly love themselves first, the conversations I am having now would not exist.

I've also seen terrible relationships professionally.  I've seen men who are so controlling and vindictive towards their significant other, for no valid reason.  I have helped women who run back to their ex-partners because their "love" is really an addiction, a need for validation, rather than true mutual affection.

I'm angry because we celebrate love, but don't advertise what healthy love looks like.  Healthy love is not flowers, or dates, or long walks on the beach.  I mean, yes, these are nice parts of healthy relationships.  But healthy love is about the respectful way you treat one another when you're fighting, or the things you say to one another when you're having a bad day.  It's about never needing to apologize for physical or verbal or emotional abuse.  It's about being able to talk things through, maybe even argue things out, but still be respectful of one another.

Bottom line: Let's celebrate HEALTHY love.  Not idealized fictional affection.  Let's celebrate the real deal.

xoxo, Jayy

Adult hot Why I Can't Read Poetry. - lookmybody - lookmybody

Ysra Daley-Ward says:

If you're too afraid to write it, 

that's a good sign.

I suppose you know you're writing the

truth when you're terrified.

(From Bone)

For me, it's the opposite.  I'm too afraid to hear it.

For years now I have shied away from poetry.  Whether it's reading it, or hearing it, it makes me nervous.  I have purchased books by Maya Angelou, Nayyirah Waheed, Andrea Gibson ... they're all under my bed.

Poetry hurts me because I feel like the words read me more than I read them.  It's like they hear the things I've been trying to hide.  

When I read poetry, I want to cover my eyes.  When I hear it, I want to cover my heart.  I really want to know how it is possible for mere words to rip my exterior to shreds, and really reveal the person I am hiding underneath. 

I haven't read poetry for a while, but I want to start again.  I want to get to know myself again, and the words will show me the way.

xoxo, Jayy

Adult hot Where in the World Have You Been? - lookmybody - lookmybody

Well I haven't posted in 25 days.  Oops.

The truth is, I don't feel inspired to write.  I could write about my minimalism journey, but I find that I prefer to capture that through my YouTube channel.  And while I have so much anger and rage about current events, I cannot seem to productively channel that into a blog post.

To be honest, I think that it's just the season.  Time to struggle for a while.

But I wanted to say hello, and that I have been thinking of you.  And I hope to write soon.

xoxo, Jayy

Adult hot Happy New Year! - lookmybody - lookmybody

Happy 2017 folks!

I just wanted to make this quick little post to say thank you to all of those who have supported my blog so far.  I'm looking forward to another year of making posts and videos for you all!  In the coming year, expect to see lots more about my journey into minimalism, fashion, and financial advice!  I am aiming to be debt free by April, and I am excited to share my own personal tips and tricks with you all.

I will also be posting more videos on my YouTube channel.  It would mean the world if you clicked this link and subscribed!  I've already posted many videos, and I cant wait to share more with you!

Cheers to another wonderful year!

xoxo, Jayy